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The Curious Incident of the Bison in the Night-Terror, or Learning to Welcome Uncertainty

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  I believe -  no, I know - that our dreams carry important messages for us - messages from our unheard selves, to ourselves. Most often, mine are not clear dictates, magical incantations, or compelling omens, but rather a mixed-up bag of suppressed feeling, hope, and worry, dressed and tossed with the detritus of the day’s matter. My dreams, like my waking imagination, are vivid, rich, abundant, and complicated.  Sometimes I feel plagued or perplexed by dreams. This was so in my first year of graduate school, where I was working through so many things. I kept a dream journal for a few months, but ultimately had to stop because the more I wrote, the more I remembered, and I didn’t have time for that much writing!  Mostly, I am grateful for my dreams, though, and can’t imagine living without them. They’re like a foreign language I only speak in my sleep: I wake up with odd phrases on my lips that I have to guess at translating.  While I dream a lot, often with overtones of stress or wo

Back to School

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There is a sacred list of names, deep in the musty desk-drawer of my heart, of those teachers who changed my life. Some did so by pulling back a veil. Others, by helping me course-correct by just a degree or two ... and thus changing the direction of my journey as a student, a writer, a thinker, and a person, in the process. As I return to teaching this fall, for the first time in a long while, I'm prompted to pause and think on what it means, and has meant, for my life. I'm in a professional transition stage right now, and  I don't imagine that I'll be teaching for very long,  but I do feel extraordinarily grateful and excited to be back in the college classroom right now, at this moment in my life and in history. Teaching is such challenging, energizing, and always evolving work, and it has made me better at pretty much everything else I do. Teaching is leading, and it is also following. Teaching is listening. And it is also clarifying and articulating. It is designin

Swimming for My Life: Care for Others and for Self

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Care work - the physical and/or emotional labor of caring for, taking care of, others can be a burden. Something we carry with us, as a load, whether we relish it, resent it, or something in between. I was once in the sandwich generation, for sure, but that’s been a while ago now. With both my parents and my in-laws long since passed, and our only daughter now graduated from college and on the cusp of moving out one last time, I’ve been thinking lately about the less tangible forms of care we extend for others, and how we integrate that kind of care with our own physical, mental, emotional, and professional well-being. I’m contemplating, especially, the psychological and emotional weights we each carry with us through our days, our lives, and our work, and how that shapes the ways we navigate obstacles and opportunities. When our metaphorical hands are full, do we shift our weight and nudge a door open with a hip? Does that then throw something out of whack, creating chronic pain? When

Getting to Home: When Loneliness Comes at You Like a Curve Ball

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Yet another article popped up on my LinkedIn this week reminding that we are in the midst of a loneliness epidemic, and highlighting that it is a professional as well as personal concern.  If connections require repeated, prolonged, informal interaction in order to bloom into meaningful friendships, then t he shift to hybrid and remote work is just one of many factors in our workplaces and larger society that are contributing to increased social isolation among working adults. What to do about it? The Surgeon General’s recent diagnosis of loneliness as a public health crisis highlights that this is a structural problem, not simply an individual one. But for those who are suffering now, structural change is going to be—and feel—really slow. As a mid-life, mid-career professional, I wanted to share here what has worked for me—well 3 things that have worked, in combination, and 1 thing that was just a good try. My story and these tips won’t be relevant for everyone, but I hope they might